like, i would just caption this about how hard i’m laughing, but i’m actually mad
as a woman, as a girl, i am taught that men automatically hate me. we’re taught that they are supposed to tease us and pull our hair on the playground, we’re taught that they only think about sex and that it is normal for them to proposition us at fourteen, that it is expected for them to pass around our nudes and make anonymous accounts dedicated to rating our bodies. we are taught that we need to be careful, because it is normal for them to assault us, and for them to hit us, and boys will be boys, and if we don’t look feminine enough they will hit us and call us slurs, and if we look too feminine they cannot help themselves, and if these things happen to us it is our fault because-
I AM TAUGHT THAT I DESERVE TO BE HATED: by every commercial we see full of thin white models with perfect skin and hair, by advertisements promising to eliminate disgusting stretch marks that we hate ourselves for at twelve, by every magazine with tips for toning and lifting parts of our bodies we didn’t know we had to care about, by every police officer who has ever asked us if we were asking for it, by every job that turned us down because we didn’t look nice enough or we made ourselves too pretty and looked too dumb; by every man who ever joked about women being dumber, slower, weaker, worse drivers. we are taught that when we need help we are needy and crazy; we are taught that when we are passionate we are hysterical; when we are in charge we’re bitches. we are told we are always in competition. we are told to mold every part of our brains and bodies to fit what other people want and we are told this is because we are not good enough on our own!!!
i associate this culture with feeling like shit; with when we are raped and people ask us to retract our accusations because we wouldn’t want to RUIN A MAN’S LIFE, now WOULD WE, with when twelve-year-old girls go on binging diets and when we are paid less for the same work and when there are countless barrages on our self-worth and confidence, when we are literally told to kill ourselves for having hair where it is not acceptable, and when everyone fucking refuses to recognize this.
i hope you read this, anonymous, from months ago. i hope you fucking read this and you think about why your input about how feminism hurts your feelings is not relevant. it does not matter when the thing you are commenting on is a poem titled “FOR THE MEN WHO STILL DON’T GET IT”. why don’t you GET IT, dude?
i am sorry you are sad, hurt, and angry. you have probably never thought that anyone hated you based on your gender before.
take four years of spanish so you can speak spanish at a 3 year old level
Every spring, melting snow creates a dreamscape in Tragöss, Austria. Green Lake, which for most of the year is no more than six feet deep, expands with the inflow of snowmelt, swallowing part of the park that surrounds it: trees, hiking trails, benches, bridges, and all. The lake’s depth reaches some 30 feet and provides a unique experience for divers—for a few weeks at least. | image by Marc Henauer
There were no sex classes. No friendship classes. No classes on how to navigate a bureaucracy, build an organization, raise money, create a database, buy a house, love a child, spot a scam, talk someone out of suicide, or figure out what was important to me. Not knowing how to do these things is what messes people up in life, not whether they know algebra or can analyze literature.
come lay down next to me and i’ll tell you about all the dogs i saw today
before you date a girl with a mental illness, remember: saying, “you’re beautiful” won’t balance the chemicals in her brain.
and don’t fucking say, “i’ll be here for you, no matter what,” if you don’t mean it.
don’t think you’re fixing her by saying, “i love you.” because you’re not
You know, I’m amazed how we don’t judge the choices that rich white men make. Look at how we don’t prosecute bank executives who illegally foreclosed on middle class families and rigged international lending rates. Look at how we defend mutli-million dollar pay packages for CEOs running their companies into the ground and yet scrutinize even a 10-cent increase in the minimum wage. Look at how we make excuses for male politician after politician who drop their pants and then make comebacks (pun intended!).
But poor women, especially poor women of color, immigrant women—we judge every choice they make. We judge them if they have children. We judge them if they get abortions and don’t have children. We don’t care that General Electric doesn’t pay any taxes— but we care that poor women of color collect public assistance AND have too nice of a cell phone.